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On the moral authority of the founding CEO

I have a very vivid memory of looking at my watch at 5:10pm. I was lying on my belly next to other soldiers in my platoon, and Shatyim Gimel was standing maybe 20 meters in front of us. We called him Shtayim Gimel, or 2c, because we were the second platoon in the 601st battalion’s incoming company, and he was in charge of the third squad, and we were not allowed to use commanders’ names in basic training. We were lying on top of thorny bushes doing push-ups on our fists and were then supposed to battle-crawl, M16s pointing forward, towards him.

I started sobbing. I don’t judge my younger self. I sobbed like an 18 year old geek who was sent to be a jarhead, instead of sitting in front of a computer like his friends did. Like a kid who thought he was going to get dinner a while ago, who was dirty and confused, who was going through what felt like senseless torture. The sobbing turned into anger. I sprang forward, crawling towards the target, 2c yelling in my ears “That’s right, Samet! That’s how you do it!”

Cool story, huh? I endured an act of hardship meant to break young recruits’ spirits and mold them into good soldiers. I persevered and here I am, a better person who knows better. Well, what if I told you that two years after this episode I was back on the same hill, a second lieutenant’s rank on my shoulders, doing the same to my platoon? Not just the same area, the same fucking hill. We were all wearing gas masks, and a squad was crawling while carrying a stretcher with a team member in it, playing wounded. My runner, Ian (not his real name), was yelling and reaching out to Dave (also not his real name) who was lying in the fetal position. I don’t even remember how it started or ended, I just know it’s etched on my mind forever.

What was my justification? Maybe that my platoon was remembered for years later as the legendary 2000 class of the 601st? That we went toe to toe with elite units we had no business running ops with? That I dragged 35 bewildered kids through a year of close-quarter fighting with zero fatalities or serious injury? My moral agency as a platoon commander was clear and well defined for the role I took on. I could have resisted the draft and sat in jail; I didn’t. I could have resisted going to officers’ course and maybe I’d have gotten away with it; I didn’t.

When I became a platoon commander I became an agent of the state with a specific mission. When I trained 35 young men to be taken into violent conflict I had the moral clarity of that end in sight. I did and could act as an individual moral agent, for example, when I refused to harass civilians in road blocks or the handful of times I didn’t take what I considered to be suicide missions. Nevertheless, my role and position were clear. This is the reason soldiers aren’t murderers when they kill enemy combatants but we still have the concept of war crimes.

The moral authority of founding CEOs

Founding CEOs should similarly grapple with moral authority and agency. We should do so because we, too, exercise power over our team and the ecosystem that surrounds our company. We define compensation guides, set the limits on entertainment options when closing deals, hire and fire, prevent, stay silent about, or even encourage harassment and bullying in the workplace. These are not secondary considerations in our search for profit but key tenets of how we carry ourselves in the world, and not considering them as such creates a lot of unnecessary pain, suffering, and corporate cultural decay. Unfortunately this isn’t something that’s taught or even paid special attention to. In fact, in many cases unethical behavior is tolerated, sometimes even encouraged, for the sake of “winning”. Founders who aren’t sociopaths should resist that urge.

Founding CEOs are unique among CEOs in their relationship to the corporation’s moral agency. Professional CEOs are hired “by the corporation” (its board of directors and often by vote) and can rationalize making ethically questionable decisions as a hired gun. Founders, however, do not have this luxury. Both de jure (since they incorporated the company and often control it through voting shares or board composition) and de facto (because of the reverence for and deference to the founder in the last 10+ years) their moral agency is inseparable from the corporation’s. Everything they do cascades down and becomes the organization’s ethical framework (part of “the culture”).

Two external counter-weights: the company and the mission

This moral responsibility is a heavy burden to bear, because it implies that everything that happens within a company is not only the founder’s responsibility but also a direct result of their deliberate actions. Most founders want to feel like ethical actors, and the burden of that desire is heavy. To resolve the tension, founders look for external sources of moral authority. The capitalist argument alone (“I started a company to make money”) creates problematic cultures and is generally not socially acceptable in startups, where talking about money is, surprisingly, considered gauche. (As a side note, some startup cultures are sociopathic, but that’s a topic for a different post).

More commonly, founders turn to two other external sources of moral authority: the “company” and the “mission”. Both serve as counterweights to the founder’s ego and help guide strategic and operating decisions in a way that relieves some of the tension founders (should) feel when making decisions that impact the lives of their employees.

The company is a separate entity that demands consideration when making business decisions. It can be a legal entity or an actual group of people (“the board” or “the investors” or “the shareholders”) who place expectations and requirements on the CEO. Both offer a counter-weight to the founder’s agency and ostensibly influence decisions in a way that’s sometimes opposite the will of the founder, forcing their hand.

I’m not sympathetic to this argument. Though the rise in startup factories has increased the number of companies that are merely exercises in risk transfer from future corporate acquirers to venture capitalists, most companies are run independently by the founders who are also among their largest shareholders. Again, by having both de jure and de facto control of the corporate entity as well as managing the business on a day to day basis, founders lose the privilege of putting the company (and by extension, themselves) before employees. 

The mission-centric argument says that the company was formed to achieve something other than its founder’s whims or enrichment: a tangible change in the world. Making a difference, disrupting, etc.; the mission provides this needed counterbalance and justifies many business decisions that would otherwise weigh heavy on the founder. Why fire employees when you’re at risk of running out of money, if your only reason to do so is sustaining your position as a founding CEO? Because we’re trying to achieve our mission, and both the existence of the company and the founder as its CEO are critical for that to happen.

I am obviously biased, but I’m sympathetic to this argument. It’s consistent with the Valley’s stated raison d’être and the reason people join startups, and even if the mission rings false (by being vacuous, or unattainable) it is something employees and other stakeholders can opt in to willingly, based on their personal preferences. You may not care about “changing the world, one dry cleaning delivery at a time” but if enough people do, they can start a company to achieve that mission.

A team, not a family

The mission reduces the moral tension for the founding CEO, but many take it too far by implying the social contract their company operates under: they describe their company as a family. This is incorrect, but not deliberately so. We spend the majority of our working hours at work, our sense of self worth is largely tied to professional success, and most employees are young and without strong family connections where the company is located. The extension into the “work family” idea seems natural, even acceptable.

My best guess is that founders themselves get confused by the same dynamics, and can’t resolve a different model for applying empathy at work. However a “family” offers a completely different source of moral authority and is at best confusing when trying to resolve ethical issues that arise from business needs. In other words, it’s not common to have to fire your cousin because the family’s cash reserves are dwindling. Most families don’t work towards a mission nor operate like a business enterprise; teams do. And while this is a topic for a longer and separate post, it’s an important call out when discussing the moral authority of founding CEOs and how to frame it.

Bottom line

Talking about business ethics doesn’t make you a saint. Not talking about it doesn’t free you from serious moral implications. Framing the social contract correctly won’t stop you from getting lit up in reviews when you make a tough business decision. Being ethical doesn’t improve your chances of success. This isn’t about money. This is about a life worth living. It’s about not having “some very sad news to share” while also announcing a huge funding round, about making decisions with moral clarity, even when they’re tough ones. I recommend giving the topic some thought.

Why I look up to Miki Halika

This is a blog post I wrote 15 years ago, in Hebrew. It’s outdated in many ways: I don’t teach martial arts anymore, Royce Gracie retired from MMA, Miki isn’t a professional swimmer anymore, and the two other names in the piece (Orbach, a swimmer-turned-model and Bar-Zohar, a professional female model) have dropped out of my consciousness completely. Yet its message still resonates with me, so I decide to translate it.

I was recently asked, again, who I look up to in the martial arts world. It’s a beginner’s question everywhere, I think, especially for teenagers, they want to know who I look up to because the sensei seems like an authority figure, a role out of reach, as though there’s nothing more I can learn. Who do I look up to? Some can name ten masters who won all the tournaments, some look up to Bruce Lee, if you’re into BJJ you probably look up to Royce Gracie, how can you not. I, however, look up to someone else. I look up to Miki Halika.

Miki doesn’t practice martial arts. Miki is a swimmer. He’s a good swimmer but not the best – his record includes some “almosts” and some “nearly’s” and I, put me in a pool and even the retirees on their 5am swim leave me behind, as though they intentionally make an extra effort when they’re around me. What do I know about swimming. The thing is that for me, even more important than who Miki Halika is, is who Miki isn’t. And Miki – Miki isn’t Eytan Orbach. That’s the point.

Look at Eytan Orbach – that’s a swimmer. All sharp, comes to the pool to work out, no joke – everyone knows he means business. Tall, good looking, works out and breaks records. On the other hand Halika – what’s a Halika anyway, definitely not an Orbach, even after he came in second in Europe in 99 his coach Leonid Kaufman said “Miki isn’t Eytan, but Miki,” that’s what he said, “Miki works extra hard.” But Miki will never be Eytan. Miki gets to the facility in the morning, he sees the pool, and he jumps in. He starts swimming, there’s a line painted at the bottom of the pool that he looks at between breaths, and he swims to the wall and flips back. Swims to the other wall, then flips back. Back and forth until practice is over. What’s he got to think about anyway? Home, family, paying rent, simple stuff.

Eytan Orbach, on the other hand, is thinking about Yael Bar Zohar. How can you not think about Bar Zohar after doing a whole photoshoot with her and then a whole campaign for Fox Clothing on top of that? The guy has fan sites – one formal and one informal, ok? Who’s going to set up a fan site for Miki Halika, he barely gets to write a story for the training facility’s blog. So they work out every day, side by side, and Miki knows: even after he gets on the podium, a second after they put the medal on him, he gets a kick in the ass, it’s the coach, he’s pointing at the pool – let’s go Miki, time to swim. It’s a never ending thing, sometimes you get a song stuck in your head that just won’t go for more than two hours. Can’t really think about Yael Bar Zohar, because who’s going to ask Miki Halika to do a photoshoot? What kind of name is Halika anyway? So they keep on swimming.

And then… Then Eytan Orbach gets sick of swimming. Give him a break, it’s Eytan Orbach, why let swimming hold him back? When Eytan Orbach goes for a walk outside, three teenage girls immediately swoon. When Miki Halika goes for a walk – well, nothing happens. Everything’s as usual. So why bother Eytan with swimming right now? He’s got to get his priorities right. Everyone gets it, sure, you have to make the best use of opportunities when they present themselves. Miki also understands, but he doesn’t really have a lot of time to express that understanding. He wakes up in the morning and he hears the pool calling him – come Miki, hop in, the water’s good today. So he puts on his swimming suit and his goggles, sometimes his head is shaved and sometimes it isn’t, and he starts swimming. They have this line at the bottom of the pool that you look at between breaths and Miki, what’s on his mind? As usual, home and the rent and maybe getting groceries. Maybe he’s thinking, time to push hard, I have a competition coming up. Maybe he’s thinking that it’s nice that Eytan decided what he wants to do with his life. And he swims to the wall, and flips back. Swims to the wall, and flips back. And swims, and flips. And swims.

And that’s why I look up to Miki Halika.

Let’s talk about luck in startups.

Let’s talk about luck in startups.

Before anyone goes up in arms, a disclaimer. In my friend group we like to say success is like being hit by lightning: it’s random, but it helps to run outside on a stormy night with a ten foot pole in your hand.This is about the lightning.

In 2007 fraudsciences was raising a round. Red Point were running due diligence and asked us to talk to Scott Thompson, then CTO at PayPal. After one meeting he said, in his Bostonian accent, “if this really works I don’t want to partner with you. I want to buy you.” The rest is history: acquired for $169m, turned into PayPal Israel, birthed so many startups. Red Point missed on most of the round and folks there still remember us as the one that got away.

But it could have been so different. First, FSC had multiple competitors. ThreatMetrix, Kount, iOvation. Why us and not them? Because we were there at the right moment with the right endorsement. Second, no one else wanted to bid. Google and Amazon laughed us out of the building. PayPal lowballed us. But we had a 10x CEO and also, unbeknownst to us, the momentum behind Scott’s bid for the top job at PayPal. An acquisition made complete sense; he became CEO, we got bought.

Kind of a similar story with Analyzd. We were a great team but we were pre-product, and I was sitting at home coding the first version of what became Signifyd. Yuval was negotiating a term sheet with the leading VC is Israel at the time. We had a great BATNA but we also had something else: Klarna had expanded into mainland Europe and that created new loss pressures. It was about to raise a large round and needed validation on the risk and loss mitigation front. Klarna has tried to recruit but most senior people didn’t want to move to Sweden for a series B company back in 2010. So we took our time and eventually got to a number we couldn’t refuse. There’s a similar dynamic with trueaccord that hasn’t resulted in an acquisition (obviously) but it’s too recent to discuss.

Startups are unpredictable. You do your best, work hard, hope for the best result (often not an acquisition). Luck is having external factors – market timing, macro economics, and even internal politics – create favorable circumstances. It doesn’t take away from your hard work.

Raising defensively: founding companies without losing them

Debt is Coming to Silicon Valley and some Startup Tailwinds Vanish. Startups are changing. What’s a founder to do? Having started a company in a tough, buyer-controlled, enterprise, regulated industry and grown it to VC scale and growth trajectory, this is my perspective. It’s not a covid-driven approach, even though the current environment makes it seem obvious; it’s the way I’ve approached building TrueAccord to be sustainable and make a meaningful difference while keeping investors and employees happy and well compensated.

Thank you to the people who reviewed drafts of this post in the past year (!) You know who you are.

This is where I started

2009 or 2010 was the first year I’d heard the phrase: “This is a bubble, and it can’t go on this way.” I had no idea whether it was true. It was a wild ride that I wanted to be a part of: 106 Miles had monthly meetups that founders of unicorns-to-be showed up to. Startups felt subversive and cool. Facebook had around 1000 employees and Jack Dorsey was pitching Square to fifty people at Yishan’s co-working space. The options felt limitless and money started pouring in. In May of 2009, DST invested in Facebook at a $10B valuation and people sniggered and thought they were insane. Startups were founded out of Palo Alto and Mountain View, and San Francisco seemed too far and too foggy to care about.

A decade later the startup world and its undisputed capital, the San Francisco Bay Area (“Silicon Valley” or “SV” from now on), are completely different beasts. The abundance of startups, the money invested in them, and the constant moving of goal posts for what it means to be successful have transformed expectations and dynamics. Money, its engineering, and the riches it can bring have overshadowed the area’s roots in technology and design, and are reflected in the ideas behind, and the tremendous growth of the behemoths of present days. 

We don’t often talk about this change. Tech companies’ early success and the narrative they propped up have changed SV into a distributed corporate world where middle and top management, VC fund managers, fund and encourage a production line of startups that grow and mostly flame out, chewing up and spitting out generations of would-be founders and employees in the process (also see Alex Danco’s excellent Twitter thread about VC as “production capital”). This production line was created to reduce risk and improve returns for portfolio-optimizing fund managers and corporate buyers. Facebook’s purchase of Instagram was seen as outrageous, but only two years later, its purchase of WhatsApp made complete sense. Big tech is still printing money, and its ability to buy market share, pay to block competition, or simply hire and retain top talent with golden handcuffs has never been stronger.

The production line of startups wasn’t created by some evil mastermind, but by alignment of incentives between many different players. However, while it’s arguably net good for the technological advances it brought to the world, it is both bad for the average founder and discourages innovation that doesn’t fit specific patterns. Yet startups that don’t fit this production pattern can be both profitable and incredibly world-positive, by solving problems that are acute and large, but don’t lend themselves well to blitz-scaling or turning into a unicorn in just a few years. To protect themselves and their ideas from being crushed by the machine, founders who must raise VC need to engage in planned and defensive fundraising.

I am not a tech skeptic. I started, helped start, and sold a few companies myself. I am running a VC-funded technology company right now, and I live among tech people and investors. My wife is a partner at a VC fund. This is my reference group. I think technology is a net-positive power that has changed the world for the better, even if I quibble with the definition of what that change is or should be. The positive effect of tech behemoths is clear even if they also need to be kept in check, and I hope to see most of the current crop of large companies persist and succeed. At the same time I find that the zeitgeist creates structural challenges for companies that try to make a difference without sticking to the acceptable growth playbook, whether by choice or by the limitations of the markets they operate in. No one is essentially a bad actor in this ecosystem; everyone has to respond to market dynamics and opportunities they are presented with, resulting in blind spots and inefficiencies that are important to recognize and, if you’re exposed to them, minimize the risk of their impact.

The rise of startup factories

The last recession led to historically low interest rates, and large pools of money were looking for returns, making money significantly cheaper and more risk-taking. That trend has only intensified in the past decade. Endowments, retirement funds managing an impossible task of showing at least some match between their future liabilities and growth in assets, and even high net worth individuals, are all looking for investments with high return profiles. VC funds sucked up a lot of that capital. The rate of new funds getting started quadrupled in the past decade, vastly outpacing the pace of creation of great investment opportunities. 

With the establishment of corporate VC arms and M&A activity by traditional companies looking to buy innovation, SV has become a solution for large cos’ innovator’s dilemma: outsource market and product risk to startups, funded by VCs, and buy them up when they mature for much less than the time, money, and pain involved in developing said products and markets in house. Flipping small engineering teams to Google and Facebook for $10-50m was a distinctly 2009-2011 phenomenon. Selling unprofitable companies’ stocks to public market investors at scale is a recent trend that may already be waning. Pushing risk down the hierarchy then selling whatever emerges back to corporate America is a profitable and effective value creation process. 

Markets are efficient, and SV is characterized by highly efficient if not overtly explicit information sharing. Simply follow VC twitter and read the blog posts: there is enough competition to squash any antitrust argument, but the VC twittersphere does an incredible job of reporting, repackaging, and enforcing trends in valuation, hot product segments, and financial management. VCs talk and deal with other money managers, leading to deals between firms. In addition to corporate buyers, secondary sales became much more structured: as Felix Salmon of Axios reports, 20% of VC returns in the past year have been to PE buyers, converting high growth into cash flow, while others sold to other VCs who had earmarked more late-stage capital. And so, faced with an influx of cheap capital and established exit mechanisms to buyers with clearly defined incentives, like any efficient market, SV responded. It did so in two ways: the rise of startup factories, and a valuation arms race.

Startup factories were a natural evolution, since the rest of the value chain was already professional and at-scale, and startup supply needed to catch up. Startup creation was never just a serendipitous event, but it has become significantly more specialized and commoditized in the past decade. SV’s long track record bred professionalism and structure in sourcing, attracting, and funding startups and founders, many of them still flock to SV to start their companies. Larger funds keep tabs on the market through smaller, stage-focused funds, external feeder funds, and through venture partners and scout programs. The larger, legacy ones even go back and manage their partners’ and successful founders’ personal wealth through specialized vehicles. It’s funds all the way down, staffed by incredibly ambitious and intelligent people, and they needed startups to fund. It’s not a surprise, then, that the most iconic VC ever, Sequoia Capital, has funded the most iconic startup factory ever, Y Combinator.

Startup factories evolved through the years to meet market requirements, and in the process have commoditized entrepreneurship. The most successful of them scaled to thousands of companies, many more alumni founders, and a support network like no other. They screen candidates, offer coaching and initial traction through cross selling to their network, and even imply higher valuations and better treatment from investors since the corporation has an iterative, multi-round game relationship with these investors that founders can’t develop. Their credentials are now being compared to Ivy league schools, and if one is focused on the signaling value of having attended a factory, that comparison makes complete sense. Being accepted into YC has a value in and of itself, and doesn’t imply anything about the value of the team, their idea, or what problems they’ve managed to solve for their current enterprise. In fact, many founders are encouraged to focus less on their initial idea, pivot through the program, and follow many truisms that create that type of companies that the factory knows how to market effectively to upstream investors.

When value is not as strongly coupled with product or company performance, stock prices and valuations become much more important metrics. Higher valuations serve many different purposes in SV, the least of them luring employees, uneducated about equity, with the promise of vast riches. What’s measured and rewarded gets optimized for, and private market valuations, not relying on any established formula, are very easy to optimize and increase through either simple hyperbole, VC FOMO, or structured rounds. Since valuations are shared without any discount for complex terms, even in VC reports to limited partners, they prop founder egos as well as fund markups. VCs rely on these markups to raise subsequent funds that pay 2+20, some founders run a private secondary round, and most win. 

The problem with this pattern is that it both creates and reinforces the power law distribution of VC returns, focusing VC and founders on a smaller number of ideas and companies that can demonstrate the traits that lend themselves to production line dynamics, rapid top line growth, and valuation manipulation. It creates a thin layer of successful founders, propped up by tech blogs who are rewarded with eyeballs for drumming up stories of success (and sometimes, the eventual fall from grace) of multi-millionaires and billionaires. Along the way it crushes companies that seemed, early on, like they fit the patterns, raised too much money and mismanaged it, and burned out or ended up as zombies with a preferred stack that no one wants to touch. Those companies could have a positive impact on the world, they could make their founders and early employees rich, and they could have a legacy. Instead, they’re another logo scrubbed from a fund’s portfolio page, their founders fired or feeling trapped in a role that doesn’t fit them anymore. I am not giving examples intentionally, because this isn’t about skewering a specific fund or company. It’s a market dynamic to pay attention to.

What if you still want to start a company?

What do you do if you’re a founder starting a business that requires venture capital to get started, but don’t want to get chewed up by the machine? What if you accept, as you should, that the high growth, high margin days or the Internet’s early expansion days are over? Many companies need external funding to exist, whether because they need to build meaningful technology, because of fierce competition or a tough market, or because its founders can’t take the financial risk of starting a company. One option is to sacrifice one go-around to the gods of the virtual corporation, prove yourself, get those Nouveau Ivy League creds, then do it again your way. One for them, one for me. The other option is, alas, more complex.

That is why I’m proud to announce Other Option Ventures, a $100m fund–

Just kidding!

Debt focused or revenue-based-financing funds argue against the power law-chasing VC funding, a futile effort that misses the point. The funding market is becoming more sophisticated and better segmented. The days of founders automatically being fired after series A are gone, but so are the days of complete founder control. To take that to the other extreme of solely profit-based funding is short sighted. The market offers multiple vehicles and structures, whether equity or debt based, to fund operations. Founders have to be smart about how, when, and who they take funding from, because there are more, not less, options. Therefore, my top advice for founders raising money is this: raise defensively.

Raising defensively means finding the right path between growth-at-all-costs mentality and the low stakes, low conviction world of lean startups. Companies need capital and (relatively) cheap capital is available; there’s nothing wrong with raising money to grow. However every company, even the most successful ones, runs into roadblocks and company threatening events. You can’t plan for them, especially if your market presents fundamental structural issues, you’re proven too early, or luck just isn’t on your side. A defensive fund raising strategy means protecting your future self, the one that has to deal with this company threatening event, more options. Less investors on the board to reduce board drama and conflicts, lower average valuations that keep everyone calmer, lower burn that lets you make adjustments without forcing a RIF, and a friendly equity holder base that won’t object to a 4-year re-up of your equity position to make sure you don’t get diluted to oblivion. Raising defensibly means prioritizing control over valuation, choosing your VC partners very carefully, and being as capital efficient as possible. 

Raising defensibly also means resisting market signaling and expectations around round size and valuation increases. Valuations should converge to reasonable multiples of revenue by your series B or C, and round sizes should decrease, not increase. 409A valuations will remain defensibly low, allowing you to compensate with equity, but you will need to continuously explain to employees why structured, inflated valuations hurt them. You will not conform to “traditional” round milestones and timing, often raising once a year in controlled valuation increments, using convertible note “bridges” between equity rounds to capture available funding without forcing a priced round too often. You’ll embrace the proven unhelpfulness of most money managers, opting to raise money from mostly uninvolved investors, punctuated by a small number of highly involved, high leverage ones. You’ll need to exercise tight financial control and pay close attention to margin. You may need to explain to employees why you can’t just hire to solve issues; you’ll need to let underperformers go instead of hiring above them. You may never publicly announce a round (gasp!). Generally speaking, the traditionally laissez-faire management approach many startups demonstrate cannot apply, because it will set you up to fail.

Building defensible businesses isn’t necessarily better than any other approach. It is probably the wrong approach in highly competitive markets that work well with blitzscaling and effectively convert investment dollars to top line growth. It is, however, an adjustment in management and fund raising practices that can increase your chances of long term financial success, better returns for patient investors, and an enabler for innovation that wouldn’t exist otherwise if we all focus on how to reach a $1B valuation as quickly as possible.

Equifinality

The most dangerous person I ever met was a retired Mossad killer.

I know, I know, I spent a decade giving my American friends crap for assuming every Israeli knows a Mossad killer, and here I am telling you about literally knowing one. In my defense, I don’t actually know him. We merely spent a long weekend together on a bike trip through the Israeli desert, together with a friend of mine who used to go by the name Guttman the Gray and another guy called Shayke who went on to become a Zen master in Northern Israel.

Yep, we were huge dorks, but we didn’t care.

Danny, the retired guy, was an unimposing, short man in his 60s, with a belly, long and wispy silver hair, and a lisp. He made his own energy bars. He was a recluse. What I’m trying to say is he made George Smiley, John le Carré’s fictional anti-hero spy, seem like an upstanding member of society and a raging extrovert. However, since we were all obsessed with martial arts at the time (and for almost a decade afterwards), he was willing to offer some of his knowledge. And his knowledge came down to this: it’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.

It sounds stupid. I knew it was stupid: there was a reason MMA had weight classes and if I tried to sweep a guy 40 kilos heavier I’d get a sprain (I tried, and I did). Small guys don’t win in straight up fights. This oddball “Mossad guy” wasn’t going to tell 23 year old me what winning a fight was all about. I had teachers. I was informed.

And then, to make his point, Danny took my friend down, mid conversation, out of nowhere, with a shoelace. No, I have no idea how he had a shoelace in his hand all of a sudden and frankly I couldn’t retrace his actions to save my life. I do know this: one moment the guy, a head taller and probably 50 kilos heavier than Danny, was standing. The other moment he was down and was not a happy camper. For us, fighting was wearing our nice training gear and bowing to each other and then engaging in some gentlemanly exchange of blows. For Danny, every second was a chance to kill you when you weren’t looking.

This was my first visceral “oh shit” moment. I had an immediate epiphany that maybe I had no idea what I was talking about, and that with enough constraints removed there are many ways to reach a goal. Quite literally, there are many ways to kill a guy. The weekend continued with a more mellow tone. Suddenly we didn’t feel like we had a lot to contribute to the discussion.

I think about that episode often when facing adversity. I learned, years later, about equifinality: the principle that in open systems a result can be reached through multiple paths. I’ve always disliked riddles, most board games, and generally situations that force you to accept arbitrary limitations set by others. Conversely, I’ve learned this is one of the main reasons I enjoy startups. There are many ways to solve complex-enough problems.

Remembering equifinality is a good way to develop an antifragile mindset. It helps me process advice about dealing with covid-19 and generally any chaotic situation. No one really knows, and there are many ways out of this, and like one retired guy who may or may not have been a real killer, once I accept there are very few constraints, I can reach incredibly creative solutions.

A warrior walks into a room: startup founders right now

My Sensei’s teacher used to say: “When a warrior walks into a room, everyone is a little bit safer.” Now there are no real rooms, just virtual ones, but I still think it’s true. A warrior joins a conference call, and everyone calms down just a bit.

Startup founders are warriors. Maybe the tide is turning and not everyone’s got bathing suits on, but we are. We thrive on chaos. We seek risk and uncertainly. Boy, did we NOT sign up for this but we ARE going to make the best out of it, and we’re going to pull everyone else up with us.

Warriors fail. Warriors sometimes lose. Not everything works out in life and maybe your company will fail. I will do everything in my power to make mine thrive. I do deeply hope that everyone stays healthy and safe. We don’t guarantee victory but we guarantee we have a shit-ton of fight within us. On social media, in conference calls, in company Q&As, in group emails, in slack channels. Get your shit together. You have a job to do.

A warrior walks into a room. You walk into a room. What are you going to do? I know my job. Do you?

NOT as usual, if you need to connect, I’m at osamet67@gmail.com

The decade of Should

Why do I do what I do? I could quote Ozymandias or the story about the Businessman and the Fisherman. Instead, here’s this tweet from Andrew Wilkinson.

What a stark difference from self indulgent “How to be Successful” twitter nonsense threads from SV luminaries yet, still, too prescriptive and infused with unacknowledged privilege. It’s not that he’s wrong; it’s the distinct “welcome to everyone else’s life” vibe, the discovery of the joy of fishing once you’ve built the business rather than just enjoying fishing in the first place, that I both strongly identify with and feel is, at the same time, incredibly ridiculous.

I don’t have any aspirations to tell others what to do. The past decade has been insanely good to me, through a combination of luck and hard work. Coming into this decade, and starting the fifth decade of my life, I’d like to remember that the Big Things we think matter, really don’t that much. That I matter a lot to a few people and I don’t matter all that much to most people, and that’s just how life is. That after satisfying my basic needs it’s more important to think whether I should do something rather than whether I can. I will continue making mistakes, but maybe less. I hope to enjoy the journey more. Most of all, I hope to not take myself too seriously.

CEO dinners

A few years ago one of my HR people suggested that I start having small CEO dinners with teams as a way to get to know people, talk about the company, and create another forum to exchange ideas. I liked the idea immediately. Earlier this year I also ran across this story about Greg Popovich and how he uses dinners for team building. It all made sense: eating is a communal activity and connecting around a shared meal is human nature (though we go to a reasonably priced tapas place in SF, not a Michelin-starred restaurant).

Since I’m not much of a smalltalk aficionado I had to find a structure that worked for me, and I settled on personal histories. Each participant (these are usually very small events of up to 6 people including me) spends some time talking about their personal history, in as much detail as they would like, and answer questions from others if they’re open to them. I’ve listened to some incredible life stories and perspectives this way and even more than they helped my team connect with me, CEO dinners helped me connect with my team beyond the 150 person point, one that have I never crossed before as CEO.

I found that most people have a really hard time talking about themselves, even if they desperately want to share. I also found the people’s stories change as they attend more dinners, either because they highlight different aspects of who they are, or because they’re more comfortable sharing. I’ve had to learn to ask questions in a non-intrusive and empathetic, genuinely curious way, to get people to open up. It helps that I really like these people but it didn’t happen by itself. Naturally I also put my foot in my mouth several times with ill-timed questions. It’s a process.

Having small-forum CEO dinners that people choose to attend, and learning how to ask people questions became an important way for me to connect with my team, especially as it is growing. I recommend you try it. Just don’t take my usual table at [restaurant name redacted].

Founders, VC funding won’t save you

A few weeks ago I made a silly Twitter joke about starting a fund that invests $300 to make you a unicorn. 99.99% of the readers got it. A couple dozen people who showed up in my DMs and pitched me seriously did not. At some point I even asked what they’d do with $300 and one guy said “maybe buy a ticket to an investor meeting”.

This isn’t good. Not only because it reeks of desperation, but because it signifies a fundamental misunderstanding of venture capital funding and how to use it. I see two reasons for this misunderstanding: founders internalizing the constructed narrative around VC funding as the panacea for tech startups, and VC partners’ branding as enlightened king makers. Both are wrong.

Not enough people talk about VC funding being a tool in a tool box, and those who do often talk their niche position rather than make a general argument on how companies can grow. Companies flush with cash also tend to make a lot of noise (then mostly die with a whimper) on “tech blogs”, the startup world’s Instagram. In addition, many founders have been mostly in school, where you study in a constrained system and get graded by someone, so the North Star metric of funds raised seems appealing.

This is insane. It creates crazy situations. I don’t talk to many early stage founders and I’ve already come across people who are trying to raise millions to fund products that 1000 users could pay for. A two-digit team with only one developer and no one else even learning to code. A team of “business founders” unable to recruit a single developer, raising money to employ contractors. If this sounds like your company, stop raising right now. You’re already failing, and if by miracle you manage to raise funding you’ll just fail slower.

The other issue is the VC narrative. Most VC partners are smart and talented people who mean well and try to do right by everyone. They are also virtually indistinguishable; much like buyout firms correctly think every technology company tastes like chicken (Robert Smith WSJ story here), most VC funds are commoditized agents, pulling money from common resources and deploying it into an undifferentiated deal flow. As commoditized agents do, they invest a lot of time in branding, focusing on outsized successes (infrequent) and conveniently tucking away failures (the norm). Founders fall in that trap like many others do, and hope to be the next anointed genius, talking about “investors who can help us” with starry eyed devotion. It doesn’t last. VCs usually can’t really help you. It is not the VC’s fault and they’re not the bad people here. It’s just reality.

If you’re starting a company, especially if doing so for the first time, you owe it to yourself to understand all the tools available to you. You have to think clearly what success means, and plan accordingly. See yourself, investors, customers and other players for what they are – imperfect players playing a game. Don’t lose yourself in it.

What’s a Chief of Staff

I have a chief of staff at TrueAccord as of 2019 and I had one at Klarna. I see people hiring for chief of staff who don’t really have any staff, which is interesting. I think CoS became a fancy term for an executive/personal assistant or a stand in for ops manager, and that’s unfortunate especially for people who take this mislabeled role and then try to get hired as a CoS under someone who knows what to expect.

So by elimination, what a CoS is not: they are not in charge of the exec’s calendar, other than for meetings that really manage staff (e.g. staff weekly operating meeting, KPI dashboard, monthly and quarterly planning, etc.) They shouldn’t be doing your expenses or getting lunch when you’re in back to back meetings. There’s a place for an assistant but a CoS isn’t it. A CoS isn’t an operating executive either. You hire an executive to do a job you’re currently doing, only better than you. They are often a subject matter expert (even if that expertise is people or general management) and they take on operational responsibilities and manage to goals through others. While in a big enough company the CoS may manage the office of the executive (including the assistant, for example), they are not operating independently of the executive.

A chief of staff is an extension of the executive. They often have some overlap in interest, capabilities, and responsibility areas with them. Other than operating cadence for the exec’s staff, they mostly work on ephemeral projects aimed at progressing the exec’s tactical interests: solve a tactical issue, pressure the organization to progress on a specific task, and so on. While they represent the exec they are not them, so they can act with similar authority but not be as intimidating which is helpful when putting the pressure on lower levels of the organization. At TrueAccord, my CoS facilitates weekly leadership meetings, supports budgeting and board meeting prep, and then works on a variety of tactical projects, spending time with analytics, client success, accounting, or sales as needed. There is a lot to be gained from hiring the right person to be your CoS to do the right type of work. It’s a waste to do so to make yourself feel important.